Family Constellation Training Module – Healing Sexual Trauma

Sexual Energy Is Di-Vine

Meaning of the vine, a direct line (connection) to Source Energy. I’ve heard it said that during orgasm, this moment, is the closest we come to feeling our oneness with Source.

Our sexual energy is lifeforce and creation mixed together. It’s a portal through which another Soul can enter this planet. 

This energy is so potent, vital and beautiful that other forms/Beings try to take it or corrupt it. 

The goal of our training module is restoring the purity of our sexuality, reclaiming this vital link to Source Energy. 

Our goal is to release & transmute any shame we have around sexuality, so that we fully express our Divinity.

We’ll healing any blockages and lovingly giving back any ancestral traumas to those who’ve come before us.

Along the way we will clean up our past lives and perpetrations, acknowledging our responsibilities and lovingly accept this as part of the human journey.

The goal of this training is to transition from shame & guilt to INNOCENCE.

The Challenge For Facilitators

As Family Constellation facilitators we receive the profound blessing to support others in healing their deepest wounds.

One of the most delicate areas we work with is sexual harm.

Supporting survivors of abuse requires great care.

In Constellation work we are challenged with holding two levels of reality at the same time.

On the human/trauma level, sexual abuse is a terrible violation. There is a perpetrator and a victim. The pain is real, and it must be fully honoured.

On the Soul level, something else is present — love, Divine order, and perfection. The experience, however painful, serves the soul’s evolution.

The art of facilitation is to honour both levels without diminishing the pain or rushing to the spiritual perspective. Healing in Constellation work does not happen primarily at the psychological level, but at the deeper level of Soul and Spirit.

We validate the trauma. We witness the innocence that was taken. And we gently open the door to a higher understanding — when the client is ready.

The Impacts Of Sexual Abuse: What We Know

• Shame often becomes a hidden current that affects every relationship and life expression.
• Sexual abuse can rob a person of their sense of innocence — a loss far deeper than people realise.
• Unresolved traumas can lead some survivors to become perpetrators.
• Trauma can either shut down the sexual centre completely or create compulsive, harmful sexual patterns.
• Holding tightly to a “victim-perpetrator” identity will block the deepest levels of healing.
• Women are far more likely to speak about their victimizations than men.
• Sexual abuse can function as a dark ritual, opening doors to energetic attachments and entities.
• Perpetrators must be given their rightful place in the family system — otherwise convoluted victim & perpetrator dynamics get passed down the generations.
• True healing can arrive when the enrgy of love brings healing to the trauma.
• All children are innocent. At the same time, every soul is on their perfect path. As facilitators, we are asked to hold both truths simultaneously.
• Sometimes the trauma or violation you feel in your body belongs to your ancestors and can be lovingly honored and given back.

How Can There Be Love in Sexual Abuse?

This is one of the most difficult and important questions that arises in this work. Family Constellations can sometimes reveal the answer safely and gently.

Here is one of my own experiences:

When I was 16, my mother was in the depths of a three-year depression. One day, lying in her bed, she asked me — half-jokingly, half-not — “Jack, would you make love to me?”

Nothing physical ever happened. Yet an overly sexualised energetic dynamic remained between us. I became the “little husband,” carrying her emotional and sexual energy.

On the human level, I was violated. My sexual energy was taken, and it damaged my later relationships.

But on the Soul level, I loved my mother deeply. She was suffering terribly and needed life force to survive. I gave it to her. I now see that part of my childhood pain was also atonement for a previous dark lifetime in which I had been the perpetrator and caused great harm. Through this experience, karmic balance occurred.

Many soul lessons were learned. The wounds I carried helped shape me into the healer I am today. In that sense, my path was perfect — even though it was also painful.

~ Can I hold both truths at once?
~ Can we, as facilitators, hold both?
~ Can our clients eventually hold both?

This is delicate, sacred work. It asks everything of us.

What Our Clients Need
Perpetrators & Victims (Shame & Innocence)
The Personal Work We Need To Do As Facilitators
The Gifts We Will Receive